Cake Toppers are Tacky - I thought the argument for full marriage rights is that gay couples want to be treated exactly like straight couples. Therefore, isn't this statement made in an SFChron followup about gay wedding receptions a little incongruous: "Some people brought gifts, but like many of the couples throwing wedding parties, Festa and Harker asked guests to donate to a marriage equality group in lieu of gifts -- and even set up a Web site for donations." Shouldn't we be registry-hungry and demand presents just like straight people? I thought that was the whole point of having a reception!