Savaging Commentary - Dan Savage is so good at capturing what I'm feeling in plain, concise language. In Savage's essay on Salon.com, I Don't, he talks about the fact that "any celebrations [about the Massachussets court case] would be premature" because "Monday's ruling was a battle won in the struggle for gay equality, not the end of the war."

He has a rather funny list of bullet points that gay marriage advocates should note, including: "If NPR is going to invite a smart, articulate, right-wing commentator to weigh in against gay marriage, it needs to get someone with a little more gravitas than Margeret Cho to speak for the pro-gay marriage side." But the real way to win the war, Savage argues is to pull a "Nixon-in-China" type assault, and gives credit to our buddy Drew, not the "press-release brigade at Human Rights Campaign." Ooh, burn!

Finally, Savage asks, "Has anyone noticed that making a big, public stink about your big, beautiful gay relationship is the KISS OF DEATH?" Of course we have, but I appreciate Dan making it crystal clear. The author of a Slate essay It's the Commitment, Stupid - How to sell gay marriage makes a similar point, in talking about how many gays treat "commitment ceremonies" as throwaway events: "It was a beautiful ceremony, but everyone knew the marriage wasn't legal, and now it's over. I wonder whether the couple might have stayed together if Massachusetts had entrusted them with the rights and responsibilities of marriage. It wouldn't have hurt."

But don't gay marriage opponents have bigger issues than whether Chip and Reichen can actually get married and divorced. Shouldn't a better PR campaign to promote marriage concentrate on Goldie & Kurt, Tim & Susan and Oprah & Steadman to build their case to the public?